Friday, September 25, 2020

Shelly’s Story

 


  

About Shelly Nazer 

 

First grade for Shelly was a world full of finger painting, running on the playground, and learning how to draw the number eight like a racetrack instead of a snowman. 

 

All of this came to a screeching halt when Shelly got called to the Principal’s office where she met two police officers. Her and her sister were then taken to the police station where they were separated and interrogated. 

 

“Did you see your Dad sell drugs? Have you done drugs?” an officer asked Shelly. 

 

“What does that mean?” Shelly thought. “I don’t understand.” She could hear her dad’s voice in the hall and thought he was coming to pick her up, but she was wrong. It would be years before she would interact with her father without glass in between them.  

 

Shelly was given a teddy bear with a t-shirt that said, “West Valley Police.” It was the only comfort she had with her. There was no explanation for why she was there. There isn’t a lot of language to explain to a six-year-old that your parents were arrested for drug trafficking, drug dealing, illegal possession of weapons, and more.  

 

After hours of being at the police station, Shelly and her sister went straight into foster care. 

One day, Shelly saw her parents on the news. Her foster family shooed the girls away. 

“I remember being like, ‘I want to see my Dad and Mom!’” Shelly recalls. “But it was like a mug shot on the television.” Her dad was sentenced to over 7 years in federal prison. Her mother was in and out of jail, battling addiction and mental illness. 

 

Shelly had an incredibly hard time adjusting to the new living situation. Not only was it difficult to be away from her parents in a new environment, but the foster families also were not ideal. One family wouldn’t let any of the foster children sit on the furniture, like they were dogs.  

 

“Foster care is really the luck of the draw. Sometimes you get a good family and sometimes you get a not so good family.” Shelly explains. “Social services try their best, but at the same time, they need homes. So, anyone who is willing to volunteer—sometimes the bad ones get through the cracks.” 

 

One foster family was an elderly couple. Shelly would sleep at night with a long t-shirt like a nightgown with some green and pink striped bicycle shorts. Shelly recalls one time her sister telling her to not take her shorts off. 

 

“Leave your shorts on,” she cautioned. 

 

“Why? They’re too tight,” Shelly complained. 

 

“Leave them on.” 

 

A few years later, Shelly was shocked to find out that her foster dad in that home had been sexually molesting her sister. 

 

Shelly never lived at a place for more than two years. She was in three foster homes, then placed in a kinship with her aunt. She lived with her mother when she had custody, once living with her grandfather, living out of a car, and her mother’s boyfriend’s places. 

 

Shelly’s mother would sober up long enough to gain custody back, then fall off the wagon soon after. This resulted in a lot of back-and-forth between her mother, her aunt, and foster homes. 

The last time Shelly lived with her mother in a trailer park, her and her sister got into a huge fist fight. 

 

“My sister was so mean. She used to pick on me,” Shelly illustrated. “One day I decided to stand up for myself and my mom came home in the middle of the scene.” 

“Get out! You can’t live here anymore!” Shelly’s mother screamed. Shelly was kicked out of her house at just 12 years old.  

 

So, Shelly hopped the fence and went to the nearest gas station to call her best friend. To avoid being placed in the foster system again, she stayed with her friend’s family all throughout middle school. It was humble living, a small old home on the south side of Salt Lake, three-bedroom, one-bath. But they took her in and even cleared space for her to have her own room. And her mother? Well, her relationship with her mother was essentially over. Shelly remembers one time seeing her mother show up and ask for a clean urine sample so she could be cleared for probation. 

 

Shelly loved school and received really good grades. Her education was her safe haven, no one would fight, yell, or hurt her. 

 

For a brief stint, Shelly lived with her father after he was released. But he was high on drugs and Shelly had to sleep on the couch. They fought over his responsibilities and how he should be a better father figure. Not long after, he was arrested again when he kidnapped a girl while he was high. This time he ended up serving a sentence up to life in prison. 

 

 

  

Enrolling into high school was a challenge. Shelly’s mother needed to register her and there needed to be a permanent address. This resulted in her having to move back with her aunt and go to school in Magna. 

 

Living with her aunt this time around was much more enjoyable. Her grandfather was living there at the time and Shelly adored him. And she did so good in school that she could have graduated her junior year. Already making $16 an hour as a CNA, Shelly decided to finish out her education taking college courses, including an EMT class. And by age 17, she was living in an apartment with roommates. 

 

“It was hard,” Shelly recalls. “I had to make a lot of sacrifices. I loved theater. It was another escape; I could be somebody else. And my Senior year, I had a good part, but I had to quit so I could go to work to pay the rent.” 

 

Not long after college, Shelly married her best friend. The couple move to Texas, then to Oregon where they started their family of their own. They returned to Utah with their two daughters and settled in beautiful Cache Valley—where Shelly’s husband was raised. Soon they will be celebrating their fifteenth wedding anniversary. Shelly still loves theater and has seen shows from New York to San Francisco. 

  

From her experience with foster care, it is no wonder that Shelly is incredibly passionate about helping others in similar situations.  

  

Joining Little Lambs 

 

 

Shelly first heard about Little Lambs from a Google search when hunting for a place to donate during the holiday season with her family. 

 

“And it pulled up Little Lambs. I saw what they did for foster kids and it just touched my heart.” 

 

Little Lambs has made efforts to make the transition into foster care easier by providing comfort kits for every foster care child from newborn babies, all the way to the age of 17. These comfort kits, which are a backpack full of age appropriate things, are given to every Department of Child and Family Services office throughout the state. Each child receives a backpack, blanket, and a book, then other items from five different age groups. 

 

When a case worker would show up to Shelly’s foster home as a child, they simply grabbed things to shove in a garbage bag and said, “We’re leaving.” The less fortunate don’t have time to grab any personal belongings before being ushered to a police car. The child may have nothing of theirs to call their own except for the clothes on their back. 

 

“We wrote them a check for $500 and went in and met Ted,” Shelly says, recalling her first encounter with Little Lambs. 

 

The following year, Shelly’s family participated in an event the Alpine church hosts every year, assembling Little Lambs comfort kits. Shelly was hooked and frequently volunteered. Over time, Shelly brought all her experience with foster care and knowledge from volunteering in the community, raising funds for the PTA, serving on the School Community Council and Charter School Governing Board, and joined the Little Lambs Foundation for Kids Board of Directors as the Fundraising Coordinator.  

  

How to help

 

When asked how we can get involved with Little Lambs, Shelly says a monetary donation is best. While tangible items are always appreciated, Little Lambs has ways to stretch the dollar, and find great deals which go a long way. 

 

The next best thing is in-kind donations such as soap, shampoo, toothpaste, toothbrushes, blankets, clothing, baby formula, baby food, or diapers for the diaper bank. 

 

In addition, Little Lambs always welcomes groups or individuals to host drives or make items like pillow cases, blankets, quilts, stuffed animals, tote bags,etc. to include in the comfort kits. 

 

It has been wonderful to get to know Shelly and hear her passion for this organization. You can learn more about Little Lambs and the foundation board members at littlelambsofutah.org.  

 By creative writer: Jillian Loveday

Sunday, April 12, 2020

Dire Diaper Demand

Written by: Jillian Loveday

An infant cries from a raw, crimson diaper rash due to rationing diapers. An earnest parent wants to do what is best for the child, but diapers are expensive and not available through food stamps. Staph and urinary tract infections are pending for the child. Of course, the parent caves and uses the rationed diapers, what else can they do? But soon the diapers are gone. Do they use a towel next? A t-shirt? A parent’s sanity spirals. This scenario is all too real for those in communities without a diaper bank.
Statistically, one in three American families suffer from a diaper shortage. For those just on the poverty line, the $70 monthly expense for diapers is unattainable. Without the Little Lambs Foundation in Logan, this painted picture could turn into a reality.
Little Lambs Foundation — among all their wonderful work with foster kids — is also a local diaper bank. Every Thursday, this generous gem facilitates supplemental diaper needs for low income parents. If qualified, parents could receive up to 80 diapers a month for their infant or 60 diapers a month for their toddler. Sometimes this is just what parents need to get back on their feet.
In 2019, Little Lambs distributed 372,818 diapers, helping just over 12,000 families. With numbers this large, you wonder how they do it all. It’s simple, they attribute these results to wonderful donors and volunteers like you.
Yellow netted bags full of every size of donated diapers and wipes are stacked on shelves in the small warehouse just off of 10th West in Logan, UT. In the entryway, there is Gerber baby food, rice grain cereal, oatmeal, Similac formula, and hygiene kits full of soap, toothbrushes, nail clippers, and shampoo. On the wall just above all of this reads a sign, “Please take what you need.” 
Director, Ted, and his son welcome visitors at the front desk. Director, Shelly, and her two daughters are in the back, stamping books for the literacy program and packaging diapers for future pickups.
There is a sense of hope and love in the building. Women walk through the front door, sign in and are given their monthly allowance of diapers for their baby. Ted asks how they are doing and offers all the necessities in the corner. These women aren’t here to just take, they bring anything to give back to a place that has so willingly given to them. They offer clothes that are no longer needed and unopened cans of formula, all to benefit another parent in need.
Later in the evening, an unsure and shy youth group arrives. This small army starts to pack stacks of diapers. The feeling of camaraderie builds as these teenage girls come together to do something good. They are all there for a purpose, to benefit someone in need.
You can help a parent in need too. All it takes is a bit of your time and/or resources. Want to know how you can get involved? Donate! All diapers, wipes, and any other infant necessities are welcomed and appreciated. Click here to find out more.
Want to help in other ways? Visit Little Lambs of Utah for more information.
Are you in need of assistance? Find out if you’re eligible here.       

Wednesday, April 1, 2020

Welcome to Little Lambs Foundation for Kids!

Little Lambs Foundation for Kids is a 501(c)3 nonprofit organization that provides diapers and baby supplies to low-income families and comfort kits to children placed in foster-care, entering emergency shelters and escaping domestic violence.

In the state of Utah, there is an average of 2,900 children in the foster-care system at any given time. During a foster care removal, the children are removed quickly from their home due to neglect and other dangerous situations. Getting the child into a safe environment is the first priority of social workers and police officers, therefore, the child’s personal items are left behind. With our Little Lambs Comfort Kit Program, we provide a backpack filled with items that no child should ever go without. A comfort kit contains items to help bring hope, support, and love to the children during their traumatic time.

Our Little Lambs Diaper Bank Program is helping babies across Utah to be happy, healthy and dry. An inadequate amount of diapers forces parents to have to leave their child in a soiled diaper longer which often leads to diaper rash, and can cause staph and urinary tract infections.

With your support our foundation stocks local emergency safe houses and the Division of Child and Family Services offices with hands-on resources to distribute to children and families in desperate need. Below is a list of items that we collect on an ongoing basis. (All items must be new.) Monetary donations are always needed.

Thank you so much for your support! Together we can make a difference. Please call or text with any questions at 435-764-4439. You can also visit our website at www.littlelambsofutah.org or email us at littlelambsofutah@aol.com
Collection List UPDATED 03/29/2020 (All items must be new)
Diaper wipes (Urgent need)

Diapers (Sizes 4, 5 & 6 most needed at this time)
Backpacks/Totes
Blankets/Quilts
Pillowcases
Books for all ages
Plush animals (Need baby safe plush at this time)
Bottles, sippy cups, binkies, rattles
Socks 
Small toys for all ages
Coloring books/crayons/coloring pencils
Notebooks/Journals
Any busy items (Cards, travel games, nail polish, scrapbook kits, ect.
Footballs, soccer balls, (any sporting items for girls or boys 7-17) (Urgent need)
Handmade or store bought baby items- burp towels, bibs, baby washcloths (Need baby bibs)
baby hygiene items (baby wash, powder, lotion)
Hygiene items ***We include a full size hygiene kit for Children 12-17 and small hygiene kit for all other ages..
(Travel sizes or Hotel samples work great)
2 Gallon Size Ziplock bags
1 Gallon size Ziplock bags
Kids toothbrushes & kids travel size toothpaste 
Deodorant
Body wash
Shampoo/Conditioner
Lotion 
Hairbrushes 
Pocket tissues
Washcloths/Bath Mitts 
Full size hygiene products for family hygiene kits
Feminine products 

Center Supplies:
paper towels
toilet paper
cleaning supplies (Clorox wipes, Lysol spray)

We have 5 Drop off locations  Thank you for your support!

Little Lambs- 1125 W. 400 N. Suite 200 in Logan (Tuesday's & Wednesday 10-1 PM & Thursday's from 4-7 PM)
Anderson Seed & Garden-  69 W Center Street 9-6 PM
American Family Insurance- 73 N. Main in Logan 9-5pm 
Call 435-764-4439 for Ogden, UT drop off
Now Chiro 761 West Antelope Dr Layton, UT
All donations are tax deductible!
 Paypal address: littlelambsofutah@aol.com
Venmo: littlelambsofutah

Happy Easter!

Sunday, April 1, 2018

We have an URGENT need for size Newborn & Size 1 diapers & men’s deodorant! If anyone would like to donate our center is open on Thursday’s from 4-7pm @ 1125 w 400 n suite 200 in Logan or we have drop off locations at Now Chiro in Layton, American Family Insurance in Logan, IWork’s in Logan, Leavitt’s Automotive in Logan & we also have a drop off in Ogden. (Dm me for info) Donations can be made at www.littlelambsofutah.org ❤️ Thank you!!

Tuesday, March 27, 2018


Did you know that Little Lambs can now accept monthly recurring donations through our website? With your donation you are improving the lives of thousands of Utah children that have been abused and neglected. Please consider making a one time or monthly donation today and join our cause. Together we can spread love and kindness to our littlest community members. https://www.littlelambsofutah.com/donation.aspx

Sunday, January 28, 2018

Thank you to the Hyrum TAC club for making 30 beautiful blankets & 19 scarves for the children’s comfort kits! Such a wonderful & meaningful project! Blankets are the heart of the comfort kits & they will bring so much comfort for children transitioning into foster care.


Shelly’s Story

      About Shelly Nazer     First grade for Shelly was a world full of finger painting, running on the playground, and learning how...